The 3 Shocking Secrets On How Focus Works
We all know this feeling.
There is a super important task in front of us.
BUT or brain is coming up with ideas for other stuff.
We wonder what that other person is doing on Instagram right now.
OR what our friends sent us on TikTok.
OR who won the last Grand Prix a few days ago.
Alright, let’s get to the bottom of this.
Why are we doing this?
Isn’t it much easier to finish the task at hand and then enjoy other things afterwards?
Sure, but we still choose temporary distractions.
SECRET 1: You are seeking distraction, not the other way round.
I always laugh when I hear:
“Our world is full of distraction! It is ruining our brain!”
That statement is as funny as:
“Our hair is blocking our sight! It is ruining our eyes!”
But the second example is simple to solve: Get a haircut.
While the first example is similar: Get a distraction-cut.
Yes, cut your distractions.
It is not that you have no choice.
EVERY phone can edit the notification settings of EVERY app.
If it bothers you, turn it off.
But the notifications are usually not the problem since you can turn them off.
Also, distraction does not make us addicted.
That is scientifically not true.
Just think about it that way: Everybody can drink alcohol. And are we all alcoholics?
The problem is our urge to escape work and complex tasks through distractions.
Yes, there is a deeper reason you don’t want to write that presentation, pitch or product-page copy.
And we need to figure out what is causing the urge.
SECRET 2: Don’t try to turn off everything. Find out why you seek distraction.
Nir Eyal says the following in an interview about his book “Indistractable”:
Use the 10-Minute Rule: You tell yourself that you can GIVE IN to any distraction IN 10 MINUTES. – Nir Eyal
Why does this work so well?
Because wanting distraction is an emotion.
And emotions do not last forever, although, in the moment, it feels like they will stay.
If you set yourself a timer for 10 minutes and then reflect on WHY you want to escape the situation, you will discover the root of this problem.
SECRET 3: Solve the problem that makes you want to escape work.
In these ten minutes, while you wait to lose the urge for distraction, talk to yourself like you would to a good friend.
Reflect on this sensation with curiosity.
Ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way?”
If nothing comes to your mind, get back to the task at hand.
Remember, you CAN give in and get the escape but in ten minutes.
You will be amazed how much better you feel after that ten minutes.
The urge is gone, and maybe you have even finished your work by then!
This rule is how you can train your brain to focus.
It is not by forcing something onto yourself but by letting the urge cool down and by solving the deeper problem that caused it.
Thank you for focusing! 😊